Thanksgiving for Friends

Thanksgiving for Friends


Octavia Butler Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over. Take time to extend thanksgiving for friends.

Story: Rosemary Banayat Bennett and I met at the Saint Louis Institute of Music. We both studied piano and music theory under the direction of some outstanding teachers. I had very few friends when I was a teenager. School was socially challenging. I faced serious physical and mental health issues. And social phobias reigned supreme in my life. Many years later, Rosemary told me that she thought about breaking off our friendship due to my strange behaviors. In her own words, “I decided I would never abandon you.”

Rosemary and I are still friends over fifty years later. In fact, we will be together Christmas week.


Moral of the story: A friend in need is a friend indeed. Friends are so precious. They are there through thick and thin. A true friend will provide a shoulder to cry on, a word of advice, and a pillar of strength. Take some time out to thank your friends. They are there to help you along your path, to help you find your purpose, and to steer you toward a life of success and meaning.


Good friends play the role of tough love when friendship calls for complete honesty. What would a good friend do when someone is losing their life to an addiction? Which role would be needed when one’s life path is played out on a dangerous path?

It’s easy to stand by someone when the going is smooth. Friends and relatives come out of the word work when someone wins the lottery. But what typically happens when the road narrows? How many times have people been abandoned when their ship fails to sail? And how often do we bail when someone’s life falls apart?

When I turned forty years old, I sent out forty cards to the forty people I most valued. It was one of the most gratifying times of my life. Every piano teacher got a note of appreciation. All my former teachers received a message. And each relative heard from me. Of course, dear Rosemary Bennett was on this list.

Action Plan: Take some time out to make that list of friends who have served you well over the years. Send out a card to each one. Something magical happens when thankfulness is extended. Like the ever ready battery, iIt never stops gathering energy.

Practical Application to Your Life; When you extend gratitude to your friends, it will come back to you ten- fold.

Weekly Take Away: Thessalonians 5:18English Standard Version (ESV)

 Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you



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