Becoming a More Confident You.

A More Confident You

Do you want to learn how to become a more confident you?

 I believe we are all genetically predisposed in the direction of strength, capable of building productive lives. Unfortunately, life experiences can have a way of corrupting those inborn talents.  Perhaps our parents were overprotective, giving a message of incompetence; illness may have stalled early development, making true maturity a challenge to obtain; or religious teachings may have instilled messages of our “sin nature,” giving a false message of inborn corruption. It is possible to become a more confident you.

Whatever the case, it is possible to rewrite those scripts.

Let’s look at three ways to pen a new life story.

Give up Fear

This morning our spiritual director talked about her young daughter’s fear of water. She took her on the Admiral, a boat that used to dock on the Mississippi in Saint Louis. The little girl screamed when her mother held her close to the railing overlooking the river. In an effort to help her overcome her fear, she began giving her swimming lessons. After many attempts, she finally succeeded in letting go of the side of the pool. Looking up at her mother, she said, “I’m powerful!” She learned to become a more confident you.

I have a smilar story. I also have had an abiding terror of water. At the age of twenty eight, I decided to take swim lessons at the local YMCA, Swimming in the deep water took place in three stages. First I had to be able to float. This took six months. Like our director’s child, I had a terror of letting go of the side of the pool. Next came swimming into the deep with a kick board. The final step involved throwing away the board and swimming into the deep. The entire process took eighteen months. The entire Webster Groves YYCA staff came out to congratulate me when I got my guppie pin.

When we let go of her fear, we assumed our power. I became a more confident you.

Give up blame.

Growing up in dysfunctional families can precipitate feelings of hopelessness and apathy. It’s so easy to cast blame on parents who have failed us. This is really a one way street, leading to more and more despair. Plugging into community support can become a life boat in these situations, enabling us to develop a sense of connection. When we connect with others, we grant ourselves the opportunity to emulate positive behaviors. Connect with others and you will become a more confident you.

My family has been riddled with alcoholism for at least six generations. I can choose to stew in the pain of the past or to grow in the glory of the present. The latter is so much more productive.

Give up doubt

How often do we say to ourselves, “I can’t do that!” One of my favorite scriptures is “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” When we tap into a higher power, our own capabilities become magnified, giving us unimaginable ability to manifest our life’s desires. Tap into the power of spirit and you will become a more confident you.

When I started writing “Recovering from Depression, Anxiety, and Psychosis,” the committee showed up in full force. “What makes you think you can do that?” “Who do you think you are?” These were just a few of the many doubts that crept in. The book is now written and available! I won over my doubts. You can too, dear readers!



Confidence Quotes: “You need to learn to celebrate yourself.”


With confidence, you can reach truly amazing heights; without confidence, even the simplest accomplishments are beyond your grasp.
Marianne Williamson

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